the lotus sutra

The lotus sutra is a Buddist parable about coming home to the relation-ships that really matter in our lives. And how, despite all of our actions and experiences in life, only thing that ultimately grounds us is our relationship between ourselves and our creator.

So--depending on your perspective in reading this blog---the main character in the story may change...but the long and short of it is, the McCarthy side of our family had a major 'homecoming' this past weekend in Salt Lake City, UT at my Aunt Mary's house.

For me and Dave and Lumbley, there was a lot at stake. I think the world of the McCarthy's--a lively bunch who are incredibly warm and welcoming, and honest, loving and fun. But, because of multi-faceted, extenuating circumstances---historically, (sadly) I have only gotten to be a provisional member of the clan. This was something I set about changing beginning in my early 30s because I knew someday I would have my own family and I wanted to create connection and wholeness in my life.

My efforts paid off!

This weekend, I visited my dad for the first time in 19 years and his family for the first time in 7 years. It was the first time they met David and the first time they learned that we're going to become parents. A lot of firsts! The visit was lovely. We really enjoyed ourselves. It turns out we're going to be in very close proximity to my father when we move. So 'Chapter 2' will be an interesting discovery for all.


Seeing The Great Salt Lake was absolutely incredible. The landscape is like nothing we had ever seen before. It looks like a dreamscape because the mist at the horizon line blends the water with the sky and the reflection is like glass. We saw antelope, bison, and jackrabbits right in front of our car. It was surreal.

In other news, Dave decided the Microsoft opportunity would not be a good fit for him. The division is still in start-up mode and I think everyone mutually agreed that new baby, new city, part-time law school and start-up are not a match made in heaven. YIKES! Now things are a bit more complicated and the move date is likely delayed. Here's to hoping my Heffalump-self will not be driving cross-country and settling in a new house at 8 months pregnant :( More on all of that very soon!

(God forbid Dave changes his mind and we move to Nashville!! I am not ready for line dancing and aspiring country musicians)

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